I posed this question on the private Thread, and I figured I’d bring it to the thREADERS and get your take. Let me preface this by saying that I am not casting judgment on premarital sex or babies born out of wedlock. That is not my place, and it doesn’t matter in terms of this particular topic. I’m not bringing religion into this either. According to the Bible, sex outside of marriage is wrong (not just sex before marriage because adultery is wrong, too…another post, another day), but for the purpose of this discussion, I want to speak about what’s really going on in our communities.
Now, the question I posed was, “Is it right/cool/appropriate/acceptable/whatever word you want to use to congratulate a young female who is pregnant?” I ask this because I’ve seen too many 15-20 year-olds who have Facebook walls full of congratulations after they find out and announce that they’re pregnant. Most of the time these are our people or our Latina sisters. Personally, I don’t say anything. If I did say something, it would be some kind of best wishes or good luck because so many things can go wrong over the course of 36 weeks. From a social standpoint, though, I don’t get what the congratulations are for. Congratulations on successfully procreating? Duh…anybody with a penis or vagina and a partner can do that. My issue rests with some females and their immature friends getting some kind of strange sense of accomplishment from all of this. What did Joe Clark say? “So many of you are bringing babies into this world just to prove you can accomplish something…” (3:05 mark) Yeah, that’s how I feel. Shout out to “Lean on Me”. I’ll congratulate you when the baby gets here. How’s that? You successfully delivered a baby and only half of the population can do that.
To clear up any confusion, child birth/conception is a miracle. Children are gifts from God. This is not meant to be an attack on young parents/unwed mothers because, let’s face it, a large percentage of our community falls under one or both categories. All I’m saying is when you have unprotected sex, the odds of getting pregnant go up drastically. Getting pregnant is supposed to happen (barring physical ailments)!
I’m sure there are a lot of people with a lot of opinions on this topic, so I urge and encourage you to express how you feel about it. -23