Don’t Be Single… And Not Be Single

06 Dec

Everyone’s single these days, but no one’s really single.

Talking. Dating. Kicking it. Hanging out. Friends. Friendlies.

What the F word does that all mean, and when did relations between men and women get so confusing?!

Why are women obsessed with defining or putting a name on the relations between themselves and men?

Confession: I’m as clueless about all of this as you probably are.

So you meet someone, a new friend we’ll say.  Ya’ll hit it off, at least you think so anyway. The texting turns into late night phone calls, you get those butterflies every time you see that person’s name pop up on your phone screen, and you start thinking to yourself: this is pretty cool. You go on a few dates.. hold up… are yall dating?!  That special friend starts making late night visits, and ya’ll even have spend the night parties. Wait… are ya’ll talking? Is this a relationship? Quit stressin and guessin and have a DTR.


You're gonna have to make it plain, ladies. But, sit him down until things are DETERMINED!

What’s that, you ask? DTR = Determine The Relationship. And let me be real, ladies, you’re probably going to have to be the one to initiate the conversation. We all know that men will do what you let them get away with. Play some of the cards in your hand. Bring it up if it’s pressing on your mind so that you can have PEACE of mind! But, let me warm you, the DTR may not always turn out like you want it to. Say he isn’t interested in anything more than what ya’ll already have? Say he actually want’s more than you do? Well, now you have some decisions to make. Point is, the ball is in your court. The DTR can do nothing but empower you and bring resolution to your life.

Remember girls, play the cards in your hand. USE THE DTR.

-You heard it here first


Posted by on December 6, 2010 in Relationships


2 responses to “Don’t Be Single… And Not Be Single

  1. Typo-Critical

    December 7, 2010 at 12:12 AM

    This was a great first entry. I don’t know how to feel about that cartoon above making men look that dumb, though, LOL.

    I think you are right. It’s a shame that we’ve reached a point in society where “DTR’s” are necessary. I’d like to think in the past, the patented method was helpful enough:

    The biggest potential problem with this is that a lot of guys – not most, but not a few either – really DON’T know what they want. Some want the convenience of a Late Night Creep without the questions or titles. Or they want the girl around, but they don’t want the title or outright commitment. The last thing you would want to do is have a “DTR” with a dude who will tell you what you want to hear, rather than give you an honest answer. In my own humble opinion, a DTR is (less) necessary when intentions are made known from jump. You’d be surprised how much a “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” or “I just wanna f*ck” on the second date can save you a lot of trouble or wasted life on someone who didn’t want the same thing you wanted.

  2. primemeridian11

    December 7, 2010 at 1:42 PM

    This is a serious issue. We have people running around all willy-nilly thinking they’re in relationships with people who are not in relationships with them. The DTR is very necessary and if you are pass the age of 18, it shld not be awkward. Two grown people know when “smthg” is happening and shld be able to converse (not conversate) about it. That being said, I think men should step up as much as women. Men can also initiate a DTR and I appreciate a man who will do it; shows maturity.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: