Just friends? So you say…

17 Dec

Sorry about the subtitles and sound quality, but it was the only one I could find with this particular part from “Bring the Pain”.  Basically, Chris Rock is talking about men/women friendships.

I have my own theory concerning men and women when it comes to cross-gender friendships: 90% of these men/women friendships are a result of one or both parties catching feelings sometime during the course of said friendship.  Sometimes, one party has a thing for the other before they really become close friends.  Sometimes, one party surveys its other relationships/friendships only to realize that the person they really want is right under their nose. (Usher – “U Make Me Wanna”) Other times, these surpressed feelings end up doing in a friendship once they get out into the open.  Other times, they can lead to a wonderful and fruitful relationship.

Note: When I say male/female friendships I’m referring to meaningful friendships.  I’m not talking about the guy/girl you acknowledge when you randomly see each other out.  I’m not talking about the one you text when you need such and such’s phone number.  I’m not talking about the one you talk to because you’re trying to get at his/her friend.  Meaningful. I’m talking about the one you would bend over backwards for, the one you can call in the middle of the night when you’re tired of trying to cry yourself to sleep.  The one who has seen you at your worst.  That one.

Now, you can disagree with me.  That’s no skin off my back.  After all, there is a 10% margin for error in my theory.  Sometimes male/female friendships happen without either party catching feelings or acting on impulses.  It can happen.  It does happen…but it’s rare.  In this day and age of casual flings and zipless “understandings”, sometimes we fail to look at the person right under our nose when we are ready to settle down and/or surrender, as Chris Rock puts it.  I’m sure some of you can think back to a time when you were talking to or dating someone, only to figure out that they had feelings for that “friend” of the opposite sex you always hear/see them talking to.  You try so hard not to be jealous because you’re with the person you want to be with, but that friend seems to have what you can’t get.

As always, I’d love to hear opinions on this one as I’m sure people feel some kind of way about it.


1 Comment

Posted by on December 17, 2010 in Philosophy, Relationships


One response to “Just friends? So you say…

  1. MichaelYoungHistory

    December 19, 2010 at 9:47 AM

    Great touch with the CR video!!!


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