Have you ever found yourself in a dilemma that you never thought you would be in? At that point, you held truth to the saying “Never Say Never”. As you play that situation out again in your mind, find comfort that we’ve all been that same place. So, as an adult, I cannot wrap my head around the idea of someone else telling me how I should feel when making a decision about my life and the life of my “future child”.
Abortion is one of the most controversial political and social issues of modern day. Something many people (men and women) stand firmly and state that they would never even ponder the idea. This post isn’t going to rattle off facts. It’s going to make the “issue” of abortion real… from the eyes of a woman.
As I was driving to work last week, I heard on the radio a report state that the Texas Legislator is rushing an emergency piece of legislation http://www.newschannel6now.com/Global/story.asp?S=13921229 through requiring doctors to mandate an ultrasound to every patient before [she] has an abortion. When I heard that, my emotions went all over the place. First, I gasped. Then, I laughed. My laughter turned into anger. My anger then transformed back into laughter- a laughter of disbelief. Most voting probably never have been/ will be in this woman’s shoes. As if the decision was one of malice judgment. As if the decision came quick and thoughtless. I cannot believe that any woman would light-heartedly choose to get an abortion, so for people to treat any woman who builds up the audacity — and I use that term loosely— to make this decision are insensitive and frankly rude.
I cannot speak on behalf of the women whom have had abortions because I, myself, have never been pregnant, so I haven’t had to deal with the situation hands on. But, allow me to be candid, as a sexually active female, I can admit to having a pregnancy scare. Did an abortion cross my mind? Honestly, yes. But at the end of the day, it will always be my choice.
I may not have experienced an abortion, but there are people close to me who have. Before the pro life groups started giving out empty promises and false information (It’s very ironic how a pro life group can kill a doctor that gives abortions. I’m just saying), know that before and after a woman has an abortion, it’s anything but malice or mundane. The decision process affects everyone that knows. A solemn feeling grows as each individual has the opportunity to way the options, but everyone has to face the reality that at the end of the day, their opinion only holds as much weight as the amount of responsibility he or she will have for that child. After the decision is made, besides the physical, there are many mental dilemmas that never cease. The could haves. The should haves, and the would haves never go away. And even years later, your actions reflect that abortion.
I have a close friend that had an abortion at an early age. Even when we were teenagers, I could see the regret and longing in her eyes as we passed up just an unknown newborn baby. So, even though it wasn’t practical, she got pregnant trying to fill the void. Will this be every woman’s dilemma? No. We all as humans deal with experience differently.
BUT IT’S MURDER! If you had the choice of a slow and painful death or a quick one, which would you choose? The slow and painful death is what the government is prescribing to many of these unborn children. How? The irony of a state government wanting to keep a baby that it refuses to educate. Why not rush into legislation about education reform as districts left and right cut teachers? Why not call to question the money Rick Perry denied from Obama for education because there were strings attached. Now we have a string of under educated students with no money attached. At least this woman considering abortion knows she probably doesn’t have the capability to have a child whether it’s financial, emotional, or a mixture of both. What about adoption? Have we seen the foster care system? It’s over crowded, underfunded, and messy.
Am I saying kill all the babies that won’t be born into the world with a silver spoon in their mouths? No, but we can’t put our number one priority into bringing babies into a world that starts off against them. State government, what are you going to do once the baby gets here? What are you doing for the babies that are already here? Don’t worry. You don’t have to conjure up an answer that dances around the facts because the truth is you are doing something. You’re working to make the poor even poorer. You’re working to make the uneducated even less interested in education with your infinite mandated test and budget cuts of need programs and even basic needs like textbooks. So before you waste time with your emergency legislation, think about the real emergencies the people already living have.
And to you, thREADERS, before your thoughts form to say you would never, hear this: Maya Angelou, one of the great orators of our times, said on her Oprah Masters Class “ I am a human being, nothing human can be alien to me.” And she went further to describe that if a human has done something, this means that any human has the capacity to do it as well. “Nothing human can be alien to me… nothing…” I will not tell you to put yourself in the shoes of a woman that just got laid off her job or raped. I just ask you, thREADERS, no to be so careless in your stance with judgmental critiques on character and morality. Do not underestimate the thought process of a woman who has an abortion. The truth is we’re all capable of making the decision to have an abortion, but it’s our experiences and situations that lead us to our decision, so never say never.