First and foremost, Happy Valentine’s Day to those who celebrate and acknowledge it.
Glad I got that out of the way. I am not a fan of this day at all. At.All. I have several reasons for feeling the way I do. Before you go judging me and writing me off as bitter, hear me out…
Reason 1: Valentine’s Day has been convoluted by marketing, expectations, hurt feelings, and sexism. If this is the love holiday that we make it out to be, why is so much marketing geared towards men? “Buy her this”, “She’ll love this”, “Don’t forget to get her this”…Love is a reciprocal phenomenon. It shouldn’t be as one-sided as we have made it out to be. In the name of capitalism, Cupid has lent “love” to the highest payer.
Reason 2: There is entirely too much pressure. If a man doesn’t buy his woman dinner/something stuffed/something sweet/something that will die in that pretty vase in less than a week, she will not forget. Suddenly, everything he might have done the previous 364 days gets thrown out the window.
Reason 3: If you really love someone or are trying to reach that level, do you REALLY need a generic day such as February 14 to express that emotion? 365, ladies and gentleman! If I love a woman or she means a lot to me, please believe, I don’t have to wait for February 14 to let her know that. I’m the type of guy that’ll take you out on the 13th, cook for you on the 15th, watch a movie with you on the 16th, and give you a massage on the 17th.
Reason 4: 2/14 is one of the most polarizing days on the calendar. It puts pressure on the couples (mostly the men) and alienates those who are single. If the grass is greener on the other side of the V-Day fence for you, trust me, you are not alone.
Reason 5: I’m not going to delve into this issue because I don’t want women lunging at my neck. I’ll just put it like this and keep it moving: Don’t sell yourself for cheap, ladies. The by-product of Reason 1 is glorified prostitution. Most guys (who aren’t your man) aren’t just trying to wine and dine you for a hug and as a kiss on your doorstep. Moving on!
I’m a man of consistency. When I’m with a woman, it’s Valentine’s Day 365. I don’t need a Hallmark-sanctioned holiday to remind me that I have a good woman by my side. Single people, don’t be discouraged. Wifed-up gentlemen, I hope she likes what you got for her. Booed-up ladies, remember that this is supposed to be a holiday for both sexes. While the market tells you that this is your day, remember that you share it with him. For everyone else, whether you’ve got a sig fig ((c) Realist23 2008) or not, call up your friends and family and let them know that you love them. That costs you nothing and will mean the world to them.